Cornell, Domestic Violence and Victim-blaming/shaming

Cornell, Domestic Violence and Victim-blaming/shaming

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and I feel like this is a perfect time to start a conversation about abuse of all kinds. This past spring, I was at a fundraiser for an organization I volunteer for, and the theme was calling men to action to protect women and children. Which, let’s be honest, protects our society as a whole.

Like others, I can’t seem to stop watching and reading the opinions and outrage of others regarding the deplorable situation that happened at Cornell University in 2024.

As a woman in my 60s, I have experienced sexual abuse, sexual assault, sexual harassment as well as childhood sexual abuse. For decades. And I’m not alone. (Let that sink in.)  I am horrified that crimes against girls and women continue. With as many women as I know who speak out against these crimes, it keeps happening.

Why are we not being heard? Why do these crimes continue?

In my circle of women friends, women family members and women co-workers, over 95% of them have experienced some form of sexual crime against them, too.

Love, Loss, and Lessons Learned from an Uprooted Tree

Love, Loss and...

One of the benefits of a warmer-than-normal fall in the Midwest is the opportunity to get out for a walk without bundling up from head-to-toe. It’s especially helpful for me, as walking is one of my go-to, self-care modalities as I process grief.

One of the pitfalls is, though, while the warmth and sunshine are appreciated, the storms that are trying to settle us into winter weather have definitely created havoc.

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Love, Loss and Listening for Sarah

Love Loss and Listening for Sarah

Love and Loss
Sarah’s angel wings

While many people look forward to their first cup of coffee in the morning, I truly savor my second cuppa Joe. It’s like a reward for getting up, showering, exercising and adulting. Anything to motivate me to get the day rolling.

My second cup is great because I love to sit outside and journal. Now, this all works great when the weather is nice. However, I start to panic in the fall, knowing that outside journaling is going to come to a cold and snowy end.

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Love, Loss and Learning how to Self-care in a Crisis

As I continue my healing journey, one thing I am constantly reminded of is to “self-care.” I’m sure others are probably tiring of me reminding them to do the same.

Self-care may sound a little “woo-woo,” but it really is not. It’s not all about massages or mani-pedis, though they can be incorporated, too. In times of trauma recovery, self-care is a reminder to be gentle with yourself in all situations, and to not only learn your limits, but to honor them, too.

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